The Matter of Child Support

This is such a subject of debate. I will touch on many subjects, obstacles etc:

The main people that seem to have an issue with child support are those who don’t want to pay it. Now, I feel as though any parent who is equally taking care of a child shouldn’t have to pay child support. I mean 50/50 pays half of all for the child’s expenses and has the child half of the time, a completely equal parent. Child support is a necessity regardless of how it is received.
I had a friend whose kids stayed with him for a full week, then went to their mom’s for a full week. His children excelled in school and are both in college; as a matter of fact his daughter skipped two grades. So, all of that stability crap is bull. A child wants to be where they are loved and these parents both lived close enough where they were able to do that. When the parents live in different states (like mines) you cannot have such an arrangement but there is something you can do. Like summers and all one week or more school breaks.
Unfortunately, when a parent goes on public assistance the state comes after the non-custodial parent automatically. One would hope the other parent would have a job but in times like we have now it is hard to find employment but that’s a whole different topic on its own, because as we know some people are just flat out lazy.

If you are a non-custodial parent that is not allowed to see your child due to actions of the other parent, I suggest you do two things.
1. Put yourself on child support. Before you get your undies in a bunch this is why; when that parent decides to file (and they usually will) you will be responsible for back pay. The last thing you need to do is lose all you have due to back pay. Now, another option is put 10-17 percent of your pay aside in a savings account, that way when child support contacts you (and they will), you have the back pay on hand.
2. File for joint custody of your child. This is not easy, but it is necessary. There are many agencies out there to help fathers so any father that is out there that thinks the system won’t help them, there is help.
If you see your children all the time and do for your kids or even give your child's mother money I suggest you keep every receipt. I don’t care if it was for hair barrettes, keep the receipt. Every time you pay for a hair style, daycare, or even a doctor’s visit co-pay, keep the receipt. If you wire the custodial parent money, keep the receipt. Never and I repeat never give cash. I have a friend who would give his daughters mom money on a prepaid card. She had the card and he would add funds. So when she decided she wanted to go to court he had proof of everything he had done for his child, plus she ended up getting less than he was giving her and was charged with welfare fraud. But oh well that’s how it goes.
I’m going to say this, for those ladies who use child support as a way to get back at their child’s father when the father is providing for their children, you aren’t worthy of your children. Yes, I said it and you all know who you are.
Now if a person is just a flat out deadbeat and doesn’t want to take care of their kids then yes by all means take them to court, but there is no reason for good parents to be placed on child support. If that parent is jobless and cannot assist financially and the other parent is working then the parent without the job should be there to make sure there are no expenses regarding their kids, no daycare costs and no taking time off work for the children’s miscellaneous appointments. They should be making the other parent’s job as easy as possible.
People need to get out of their own selfish feelings and focus on being adults and do what is best for their kids. That's the bottom line.

Now we get to fathers who did not want to be fathers. I strongly feel that if a father decides within the 1st three months that he does not want to have a baby he should have the right to relinquish his rights. It needs to be signed sealed and delivered before the 1st trimester is over. I mean a court document of record stating he does not want the child in question and this should be something that the mother is notified of as well, in advance. If the mother decides she still wants to be the parent of this child she will know she has to do it on her own and the father will not be financially responsible.
As we all know it takes two to tang, so no one is without responsibility.

Well as for now that is my two cents and honesty I could debate this issue all day long but I won’t.

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