Self-Respect, Integrity & Self Love Is Gone...

I’m trying to figure out what happened to self-worth and integrity. Women have become door mats and banks for men with no drive or ambition. I had a friend say to me "this will be the perfect place for my brother to come stay when he gets out of jail so one of these girls can take care of him" there was no shock that he even said that because the sad but true fact of the matter is, that’s what Washington has become known for. The desperate desire to have a man in their life has caused women to put aside all morals. I have seen a woman attend the baby shower of the man she messed around with while he was with the mother of his child and during this woman’s pregnancy. You have Women running around becoming baby mama number 10 knowing this man has a woman at home. I assume thinking that somewhere in the back of your mind that if you have his child he will leave her for you, the same thought that all of his other baby mamas had before you.
While he tells you this woman is this and that but what you fail to realize is, if she was all that bad he would not be there. In reality her only true issue is staying where she is not respected, so the reality of the situation is, the two of you share more in common than you think. Wondering who will be the last woman standing but in a sense it is her who is winning while you take food out of the mouths of your children to give him money that his woman at home gets to live off of as well. You may be telling yourself that isn’t true but every dime he gets from you is one of his own he gets to save to spend on her.
On the other hand he may be spending on you as well; you may not have to reach in your pocketbook. Your only duty may be to keep a smile on his face and spread your legs when he’s at your place and entertain him while he is in your presence. That still does not make you his girl it makes you his hoe.

Here in a world where you don’t have to be a celebrity to have groupies, all it takes is a crew, some fake jewels and a lot of confidence and you will have women dropping there drawers and giving up the poonany before they give up their phone number. The local club promoter and DJ are considered celebrities as well. So much so that they too have a superiority complex, the same complex that the local rappers have developed, especially the ones with a video...o boy lets not talk about how these women act with them.

We have all been lied to and cheated on by someone at some point in our existence. Our kindness has been taken for a weakness at many times. I’ve been there and I’ve been through it myself. What determines your character is how you react to these situations.

Even more so I find it funny that a woman with self-respect is considered a bitch or thinks she is the shit because she will not put up with the bullshit that these women have lead them to believe is ok. A man (or lack there of) will go out of his way to demean the character of a woman who walks away and still keeps her head up high and treats him like he tried to treat her, instead of being a man and recognizing he messed up and didn’t play his cards right.
True story: I had a man tell me he chooses women with low self-esteem because he doesn’t have to work as hard. He can be who he is comfortable being and do as he pleases, that women with high self-esteem make him feel like he has to be better. He also told me that when he leaves a woman with low-self esteem that he makes her better because then she tries to look better and do better to show him what he has lost.

You want to say "is this how you want a man to treat your daughter" but honestly have of them don’t take care of their kids and could care less how their child is treated. Mentally they’re just children themselves and the child they bring to this earth is a consequence of their actions and remember we live in a world where no one wants to take responsibility for the actions. They want to sweep them under the carpet like they never happened.

These women stay on the hunt for someone to love them, neglecting their children while they play in the club with barely anything on...not even self-respect. Their children often end up in foster care, wards of the state and casualties of war, the war between man and woman. They grow to be like their parents, no moral content, searching for love in the streets of the world but mainly right here because they have no ambition to go out and see the world and become more than this place has to offer.

At what point do we as woman stand up and learn to love not just ourselves but one another? My words are not meant to change the world or this place I call home, like all else I share on my blog they are merely the opinion of me. A woman learning life as life passes by. There are no fairy tales to be told, only reality. Some will love it and some will hate it but it doesn’t change the fact of what it is, I could go on and on but I will stop here for now.

And…It Is What It Is